How well do you enjoy your own company?
Are you someone who is comfortable being alone, or do you find being alone makes you feel
uncomfortable, nervous or anxious? Below are some statements that people who are comfortable being alone are able to say.
If you find being able to say these statements makes you feel uncomfortable, please know there is no judgement. It is only something for you to think about and notice. Noticing what goes on in our self-talk is very important to becoming aware of how to shift or change things.
See how these types of statements feel when you read them. Try and read all of them, even if you feel a little uncomfortable when reading them.
Here’s why.
Our brains are designed to run away from anything feeling uncomfortable, painful, scary. But, the only way to start feeling more comfortable, less painful, and less scary is to recognize why you feel that way and start learning how to overcome it.
You can overcome the discomfort (anyone can) if that is something you want to do. It’s not magical, mystical, who-knows-why-it-works mumbo-jumbo. There’s information to learn that makes sense to your brain, and something that your brain can easily process.
So try out saying these sentences. See if this is how you’d prefer to live your life:
I am comfortable spending time alone. In fact, I love the time I am able to spend with myself! I love my friends and family, but I also enjoy my own company very much.
I use the time I spend alone to explore my hobbies. I believe that it is important to engage in hobbies that I love on a regular basis. This is the perfect time for hobby and creativity activities.
I enjoy solitude because I am able to learn more about myself.
I am an interesting person, and I love having the opportunity to explore my mind and soul. I use my alone time to examine my life, behavior, and thoughts. I examine my past and consider my future.
I get more done when I am free of distractions. My productivity and creativity shine when I am alone. My problem-solving skills are at their best.
I am able to find a solution to any challenge when I have the gift of solitude.
I feel free to be myself and live my life exactly as I choose during my precious time alone. I have more control over my life and my time when I am free from the expectations of others.
Today, I enjoy the time I spend with myself. I give myself permission to spend this time exactly as I please. I enjoy my own company.
So, how was that? Was it comfortable, uncomfortable? Anxiety producing or did it produce solace? Is this how you’d like to live every day of your life?
I’d like to give you some questions to be thinking of. These can help you start the process of learning more about how you’d rather feel about your time. Think about them, and answer them if you are serious about finding more confidence and courage, and if you want to be more in control of what happens to you on a daily basis.
Self-Reflection Questions:
How could I better use the time I spend alone?
Do I enjoy my own company? Why or why not?
What feelings come up for me when I know I’ll be alone and start feeling uncomfortable (both physically and emotionally)?
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