SHIFTING FROM REJECTION TO ACCEPTANCE (of myself!)

Three years ago, seeking relief from feeling totally rejected by others, I did this Activity called a Belief Shifter where I answered a bunch of questions about my beliefs and feelings related to a particular situation that had occurred.

After I wrote down my beliefs according to how I saw them, the Belief Shifter Activity guided me step-by-step through the process and I rewrote the story from how I saw it coming from a different perspective, a point of view that I had not seen prior to that. It was interesting and exciting to see and experience the clarity of this new way of thinking by observing and shifting beliefs.

Working through this Activity enabled me to realize that I was concerned about other people rejecting me. As I continued I realized that in doing that, I was also rejecting myself! I was rejecting my thoughts and feelings. I was the one who was shutting down, and for what?

It turned out it was because I had a discomfort that I might get embarrassed, or feel sad or not be able to say things in a way that appeals to everyone. And, if I can’t appeal to everyone (out of fear of reprisal, possibly needing to apologize, or maybe embarrassment), then I may as well not speak at all.

I could see that worrying what others might say or think about me is like choosing to live a sort of slow death. I didn’t do what I wanted to do because I didn’t know how I could please everyone. As I began to reframe this relational dynamic and sense how meaningful it would be to honor myself and have the moral courage to do what I felt was in my best interest (for my greater good), I began to see new possibilities and options, and feel how different my life could be.

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